The Most Important Rule Gay Men Can Learn From Drivers

‎It always comes as a shock that people on Lagos roads act in mad ways. ‎So shocked are we that we find ourselves sinking into rage or utter despair. The source of our frustration is simple: We share the road with human beings who behave far off from the ways of actual human beings. Yet... Continue Reading →


Fortune and The Evil of a Hook up 

Some stories stream into our lives with the resonance of events that happen to far away people - they are never about people within our circle, people we know. A desire to connect leads us straight into an ambush. In the midst of the conundrum, we are nothing but a blend of humiliating rage. Yet,... Continue Reading →

Why It’s OK to Identify as Bisexual

Every gay man has a friend (or knows someone who has a friend) that, despite evidence pointing to the true nature of his sexuality, identifies as bisexual. It can seem quite odd hearing this friend (whom we sense with forbidding-certainty swings the gay way) confess his bisexuality. ‎In moments like this, we might find ourselves... Continue Reading →

Raising (Broken) Boys

It seems obvious, and it is worthy of restatement: boys are meant to be masculine and girls are meant to be feminine. This dichotomy has been with the human race since the earth began. We, as a culture, need men to be men. Its better that way. Society as a whole functions better when everyone... Continue Reading →

On Being Gay

Living in certain parts of Nigeria is hard. It matters little how much you have, you will face some hardship. Be it from epileptic electricity, the jagajaja nature of roads, or the political uncertainty from having to witness what comes across as the maddening incompetence of those running the government. Being gay, and having to... Continue Reading →

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