Play Devil’s Advocate

It might be tempting, exhilarating even, to invest in giving homophobes a piece of our mind. Give them a dose of what we think without regard for what they think. But this is often a recipe for disaster. More often than we might like (or have the patience to recognize),┬áin efforts to forge understanding, the... Continue Reading →


Should You Bother Making Sexual Advances To Gay Men?

When we come upon those who show amorous bias against feminine men, say the gay man who writes 'no femmes' as a self-description on his Grindr profile, we might find ourselves reach for possible conclusions about their nature: They must be sufferers of internal homophobia, or they must be governed by prejudice, or they must... Continue Reading →

Does Coming Out Matter?

A friend I will call Somto and I were talking about coming out, as a topic. Naturally, I brought up the most recent piece I had published here on Glowrite. His face folded into bemusement as he read the piece through the screen of his phone. Then he put his expression of bemusement into words.... Continue Reading →

Ignorance Is Not The Enemy

Sometimes, it can be a challenge to sense whether a person's hostility is poised towards male-femininity or male-homosexuality. An example of this challenge comes from my own experience: I had come out to Dike, a close friend who identifies as straight. Dike expressed rejection at the idea of my homosexuality. He looked into my eyes... Continue Reading →

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